The Grave Stone

About 2 miles away is a small country cemetery on top of a hill - across the highway from a small country church - is where my wife is buried - the grave stone has in large letters carved our family name - in the lower right corner is my wife's name with the date of her birth and the day she died - next to that is my name with my birthday and then there is the name of my daughter with her birthday - across the upper top of the stone is a biblical verse - "Come to Me all who are weary and heavily ladened and I will give you rest" - someday the dates when I and my daughter die will be added to the space left blank -

I used to visit the cemetery on occasion but found that I would feel kinda sad the rest of the day after leaving the place - so as the years went by my visits became infrequent - now I rarely visit the place - but when I do visit I stand at the grave and think of how life is - with all its ups and downs - things I wished I had done and things I wished I didn't do while my wife was alive - but that's how life is - you only get one chance as you pass through each moment of time -

So what is the purpose of this post - it's just a reminder that life is short and you should always do the right thing each day that you live - especially the way you treat your spouse and family - at some point in life you will reflect on the things you did and either feel good or sad about them - it's been 23 years since my wife died and for the most part I feel good about the way I treated her - sure miss her though - hope to see her again - Joe

Life is short. No doubt about it. I’m glad you are mostly happy with yours. I don’t think anyone being honest will be completely happy with life’s decisions

As for the grave stone I never felt much of a connection with one. Memories are more important to me.
And I don’t ever want to see my name on one even if the dates aren’t filled in.

I lost my second wife to MS. Still hurts a lot sometimes when I think about losing her but brings a lot of smiles when I think about our life together.