MarkB.
In large part I agree ( obviously). However I'm not sure it's that straight forward. I'm going to step way, way way out of my comfort zone here.
When one of my daughters was 16-19 as a parent/father I was dealing with what some might call, or assume was some fairly "normal" rebellious behavior. My responses ( right term?) were based on how we might handle a typically rebellious teen. Worded differently, if your spoiled teen is acting out, rationally you do X....Worded another way...Applying rational though, to something that isn't rational
Years later, with help. We find out she was sexually assaulted when she was 8. And the various things plaguing her were a result of PTSD. How much further damage did I do, because rationally you respond to X by doing Y....because no-one understood underlying it all was PTSD.....PTSD itself, still isn't fully understood....
No-one, or few really understand the human brain. Unless your a trained phycologist and more, and even then, there are many areas that aren't fully understood. This topic of gender identity being one. Some think it's a choice...Most science says no it's not. "yay but for the grace of god"
https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article...ary%20by%20age.